Make the Time to Spend

(Be prepared this is a little long, sorry)
As I mentioned in my post last week; some parents were bad mouthing Peyton during the soccer game between Peyton and Olivia.  Some much of me wanted to turn around and yell at these dads who were talking about MY SON!  My son who loves and lives to play soccer, asks everyday can he go outside and play- multiple times throughout the day!  Who would want nothing more than to play and have others watch him.  One comment was 'Go ahead and give it to the ball hog!' Mind you these dads were loud enough for some of the parent to hear but I am pretty sure none of the kids heard.  I waited patiently, looked over at Chris and would say 'Did you just hear that?  They called him Dennis Rodman'; WHAT?  Dennis Rodman??.  (Peyton has his hair spray painted for his games.  It is something special he likes to do and if he has not been behaving during week or has had problems he doesn't get to spray his hair.  This particular Saturday his hair was red to match his jersey and Olivia's was sparkle sprayed.)  I would turn and look at them and they continue; completely engrossed in their own world.  One of these dads I went to high school with; we were in the band together.  I felt so upset not only for what they were saying about my son but also betrayed by someone that I knew.  Then I would hear 'He is good; he most play with older kids.  He is able to anticipate what is going to happen.'
I looked back one more time to her a mom say 'You know that's Olivia's brother.
Dads: What? Who’s Brother?
Other Mom: That's Olivia's brother.'
With a look over to me and Chris, I say back 'Yes, that is Olivia's brother and my son you have been bad mouthing.'  
Dads: We were not bad mouthing him; we were talking about how GOOD he was.
I replied with giving credit that they did once say he was good but have bad mouthed him for over 15 minutes.  I kept my cool said that little bit and turned around and finished watching the game cheering ALL of the children on.  We did have one parent (my friend from high school) apologize for his actions and words on Tuesday at practice.
Yes, Peyton is better than a lot of the children in his age group.  He plays with all of his heart and does the best that he can.  He practices and practices and practices.  He practices with older kids; he has even walked up to 16 year old at the fields and starting playing/passing with them.  He is encouraged by his family and friends to be better not just on the field but off the field.
We play soccer at the YMCA in our area and this is supposed to be a Christian organization and we are talking bad about children.  How Christian is that?
Why is it as a society that we bad mouthed the children that are doing good because are child or child's team is doing bad?  We should be encouraging our children to step up and strive to be better.  Not to sit back in our own little world and complain about others.
I remember hearing a couple weeks ago about a high school football player being told he can't score that many touchdowns or something to that effect.  WHY? Because he plays better than the other kids?
After we left the field that day and went about our business I kept thinking about the whole situation.  And wondered, if those dads were outside showing their sons how to play soccer, spending time with them, encouraging them to be their best; would they have been talking about my son the way they did knowing that their child is giving it their all as my son does on the field every-time he plays?  Knowing that their child is having the time of his life playing and having his parents actually watch him play and be interested in him and not some other drama that is going on.  Be a role model!  Show your child how to strive to succeed.  Pick them up when they fall.  Don't have them in something because that is what you did growing up or that is what you think they want to be in, ask them.  Be interested in what they are doing and want to do.  Watch them intently. Enjoy the time that you can spend with your children.  Make the time to spend with your children!



 
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Whew! Where has the time gone?

It is toward the end of October and I have not blogged since July!  There goes my whole 'blog at least every other week'.  We have been BUSY that past couple months and especially when school started in August then soccer at the end of August.
All three children are playing soccer and LOVING it! 
Olivia likes to play goalie because she can sing and dance until the ball comes to her.  I don't think she has been scored on yet.  Peyton is a one man wrecking team on the field.  He is quicker than most of the other kids and has great ball control.  We had an incident on Saturday about other parents bad mouthing him (because their child's team was losing); that’s for another post soon.  Autumn has been playing defense this whole season.  She has been playing the same position I normally played back in high school and college; a fullback.  Autumn has done a wonderful job there; she is getting really good with that left foot and being very aggressive.
I have started a new venture in selling Thirty-One Gifts.  It is purses, bags, accessories that can be monogrammed.  It has been going really well till recently, this month has been slow.  Check out my website, mythirtyone.com/tiffanyrichter or visit my private group on facebook.com, Awesome Gifts with Tiffany.  It's more than just selling purses and bags.
The kids have been doing great in school.  Autumn has made Honor Roll again!!  Peyton has been improving wonderfully! (We had some behavior issues in the beginning)  Olivia's teachers just lover her and her knowledge!  I still can't believe that they are all in school and under one roof.
Until next time....