Here is an article I found while looking for sexual abuse facts, and here is another one.
Great website of what I have read so far!
Facts of Sexual Abuse:
* 1 out of 3 girls and 1 out of 5 boys will become victims of sexual abuse by the time they reach their 18th birthday.
* 85-90% of child sexual abuse cases are committed by trusted family members and close friends.
* 88% of cases of sexual abuse are never reported to the authorities.
Most victims become perpetrators themselves if they are not given the right help/therapy.
Don't think that only strangers are the ones that will commit this heinous acts on your children! Educate yourself and your children on sexual abuse. It's not just about good touch, bad touch. This is a very serious thing that goes on daily in our lives and so many turn the other way.
I can't even begin to describe my hurt, my anger, my disbelief in how people in my life have been sexually abused. How when I hear or read a story about sexual abuse; I am completely brought to tears. Knowing what that family is going through now and what they will go through in the future. I can't fathom how the parents feel of children who a been silent for so many years- them not knowing why their child acted like that, not being able to soothe them, help them, the list goes on and on. I am brought to my knees trying to understand it all.
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
Will you STAND or stand by?
Child Sexual Abuse- I am not sure where to even start with this one.
With the Sandusky case going on; I have been reading about it a lot lately. This is something that hits me right in the gut. I have three people in my life (that I associate with regularly) that I know were sexually abused as a child or teen. It enrages me that so many people can turn a blind eye to something like this and I hope that it makes you angry too. I am not going to go into the details of the Sandusky case, but numerous people within the campus and that were part of The Second Mile had indications or witnessed at some point something inappropriate. WHY WAS NOTHING DONE??? Some of the public now says well, so and so did their job by reporting to their supervisor. What about reporting it to the police? Why didn't anyone follow up about the incidents that they saw and/or heard? Just because it was inappropriate does not mean it was not abuse.
It is not just this publicly known case that this happened to. I am sure that it happens everyday. I know that in my house, I did not turn a blind eye. And nor will I ever turn a blind eye.
We should have a moral obligation to any child to be their voice and to be heard! Will you stand up for that child or stand by and let the abuse happen?
With the Sandusky case going on; I have been reading about it a lot lately. This is something that hits me right in the gut. I have three people in my life (that I associate with regularly) that I know were sexually abused as a child or teen. It enrages me that so many people can turn a blind eye to something like this and I hope that it makes you angry too. I am not going to go into the details of the Sandusky case, but numerous people within the campus and that were part of The Second Mile had indications or witnessed at some point something inappropriate. WHY WAS NOTHING DONE??? Some of the public now says well, so and so did their job by reporting to their supervisor. What about reporting it to the police? Why didn't anyone follow up about the incidents that they saw and/or heard? Just because it was inappropriate does not mean it was not abuse.
It is not just this publicly known case that this happened to. I am sure that it happens everyday. I know that in my house, I did not turn a blind eye. And nor will I ever turn a blind eye.
We should have a moral obligation to any child to be their voice and to be heard! Will you stand up for that child or stand by and let the abuse happen?
Whirlwind
We have been in a whirlwind the past couple weeks, but no time to blog. Soccer is over, fall is setting in, and we are getting ready for the holidays.
I have thought of 2 or 3 blogs but have not typed them out; blogs from the Sandusky Scandal to Being at the Feet of Jesus. These two mentioned I plan to get top sometime soon; I am very passionate about both right now. I have typed these blogs out in my head but not on the keyboard, ha.
We are in the process of getting ready to go to North Carolina for Thanksgiving to see my sister! We have never traveled for any holiday so this is going to be an experience.
Hope you all enjoy your Thanksgiving if we don't talk before then.
I have thought of 2 or 3 blogs but have not typed them out; blogs from the Sandusky Scandal to Being at the Feet of Jesus. These two mentioned I plan to get top sometime soon; I am very passionate about both right now. I have typed these blogs out in my head but not on the keyboard, ha.
We are in the process of getting ready to go to North Carolina for Thanksgiving to see my sister! We have never traveled for any holiday so this is going to be an experience.
Hope you all enjoy your Thanksgiving if we don't talk before then.
Monday, October 24, 2011
Make the Time to Spend
(Be prepared this is a little long, sorry)
As I mentioned in my post last week; some parents were bad mouthing Peyton during the soccer game between Peyton and Olivia. Some much of me wanted to turn around and yell at these dads who were talking about MY SON! My son who loves and lives to play soccer, asks everyday can he go outside and play- multiple times throughout the day! Who would want nothing more than to play and have others watch him. One comment was 'Go ahead and give it to the ball hog!' Mind you these dads were loud enough for some of the parent to hear but I am pretty sure none of the kids heard. I waited patiently, looked over at Chris and would say 'Did you just hear that? They called him Dennis Rodman'; WHAT? Dennis Rodman??. (Peyton has his hair spray painted for his games. It is something special he likes to do and if he has not been behaving during week or has had problems he doesn't get to spray his hair. This particular Saturday his hair was red to match his jersey and Olivia's was sparkle sprayed.) I would turn and look at them and they continue; completely engrossed in their own world. One of these dads I went to high school with; we were in the band together. I felt so upset not only for what they were saying about my son but also betrayed by someone that I knew. Then I would hear 'He is good; he most play with older kids. He is able to anticipate what is going to happen.'
I looked back one more time to her a mom say 'You know that's Olivia's brother.
Dads: What? Who’s Brother?
Other Mom: That's Olivia's brother.'
With a look over to me and Chris, I say back 'Yes, that is Olivia's brother and my son you have been bad mouthing.'
Dads: We were not bad mouthing him; we were talking about how GOOD he was.
I replied with giving credit that they did once say he was good but have bad mouthed him for over 15 minutes. I kept my cool said that little bit and turned around and finished watching the game cheering ALL of the children on. We did have one parent (my friend from high school) apologize for his actions and words on Tuesday at practice.
Yes, Peyton is better than a lot of the children in his age group. He plays with all of his heart and does the best that he can. He practices and practices and practices. He practices with older kids; he has even walked up to 16 year old at the fields and starting playing/passing with them. He is encouraged by his family and friends to be better not just on the field but off the field.
We play soccer at the YMCA in our area and this is supposed to be a Christian organization and we are talking bad about children. How Christian is that?
Why is it as a society that we bad mouthed the children that are doing good because are child or child's team is doing bad? We should be encouraging our children to step up and strive to be better. Not to sit back in our own little world and complain about others.
I remember hearing a couple weeks ago about a high school football player being told he can't score that many touchdowns or something to that effect. WHY? Because he plays better than the other kids?
After we left the field that day and went about our business I kept thinking about the whole situation. And wondered, if those dads were outside showing their sons how to play soccer, spending time with them, encouraging them to be their best; would they have been talking about my son the way they did knowing that their child is giving it their all as my son does on the field every-time he plays? Knowing that their child is having the time of his life playing and having his parents actually watch him play and be interested in him and not some other drama that is going on. Be a role model! Show your child how to strive to succeed. Pick them up when they fall. Don't have them in something because that is what you did growing up or that is what you think they want to be in, ask them. Be interested in what they are doing and want to do. Watch them intently. Enjoy the time that you can spend with your children. Make the time to spend with your children!
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As I mentioned in my post last week; some parents were bad mouthing Peyton during the soccer game between Peyton and Olivia. Some much of me wanted to turn around and yell at these dads who were talking about MY SON! My son who loves and lives to play soccer, asks everyday can he go outside and play- multiple times throughout the day! Who would want nothing more than to play and have others watch him. One comment was 'Go ahead and give it to the ball hog!' Mind you these dads were loud enough for some of the parent to hear but I am pretty sure none of the kids heard. I waited patiently, looked over at Chris and would say 'Did you just hear that? They called him Dennis Rodman'; WHAT? Dennis Rodman??. (Peyton has his hair spray painted for his games. It is something special he likes to do and if he has not been behaving during week or has had problems he doesn't get to spray his hair. This particular Saturday his hair was red to match his jersey and Olivia's was sparkle sprayed.) I would turn and look at them and they continue; completely engrossed in their own world. One of these dads I went to high school with; we were in the band together. I felt so upset not only for what they were saying about my son but also betrayed by someone that I knew. Then I would hear 'He is good; he most play with older kids. He is able to anticipate what is going to happen.'
I looked back one more time to her a mom say 'You know that's Olivia's brother.
Dads: What? Who’s Brother?
Other Mom: That's Olivia's brother.'
With a look over to me and Chris, I say back 'Yes, that is Olivia's brother and my son you have been bad mouthing.'
Dads: We were not bad mouthing him; we were talking about how GOOD he was.
I replied with giving credit that they did once say he was good but have bad mouthed him for over 15 minutes. I kept my cool said that little bit and turned around and finished watching the game cheering ALL of the children on. We did have one parent (my friend from high school) apologize for his actions and words on Tuesday at practice.
Yes, Peyton is better than a lot of the children in his age group. He plays with all of his heart and does the best that he can. He practices and practices and practices. He practices with older kids; he has even walked up to 16 year old at the fields and starting playing/passing with them. He is encouraged by his family and friends to be better not just on the field but off the field.
We play soccer at the YMCA in our area and this is supposed to be a Christian organization and we are talking bad about children. How Christian is that?
Why is it as a society that we bad mouthed the children that are doing good because are child or child's team is doing bad? We should be encouraging our children to step up and strive to be better. Not to sit back in our own little world and complain about others.
I remember hearing a couple weeks ago about a high school football player being told he can't score that many touchdowns or something to that effect. WHY? Because he plays better than the other kids?
After we left the field that day and went about our business I kept thinking about the whole situation. And wondered, if those dads were outside showing their sons how to play soccer, spending time with them, encouraging them to be their best; would they have been talking about my son the way they did knowing that their child is giving it their all as my son does on the field every-time he plays? Knowing that their child is having the time of his life playing and having his parents actually watch him play and be interested in him and not some other drama that is going on. Be a role model! Show your child how to strive to succeed. Pick them up when they fall. Don't have them in something because that is what you did growing up or that is what you think they want to be in, ask them. Be interested in what they are doing and want to do. Watch them intently. Enjoy the time that you can spend with your children. Make the time to spend with your children!
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Friday, October 21, 2011
Whew! Where has the time gone?
It is toward the end of October and I have not blogged since July! There goes my whole 'blog at least every other week'. We have been BUSY that past couple months and especially when school started in August then soccer at the end of August.
All three children are playing soccer and LOVING it!
Olivia likes to play goalie because she can sing and dance until the ball comes to her. I don't think she has been scored on yet. Peyton is a one man wrecking team on the field. He is quicker than most of the other kids and has great ball control. We had an incident on Saturday about other parents bad mouthing him (because their child's team was losing); that’s for another post soon. Autumn has been playing defense this whole season. She has been playing the same position I normally played back in high school and college; a fullback. Autumn has done a wonderful job there; she is getting really good with that left foot and being very aggressive.
I have started a new venture in selling Thirty-One Gifts. It is purses, bags, accessories that can be monogrammed. It has been going really well till recently, this month has been slow. Check out my website, mythirtyone.com/tiffanyrichter or visit my private group on facebook.com, Awesome Gifts with Tiffany. It's more than just selling purses and bags.
The kids have been doing great in school. Autumn has made Honor Roll again!! Peyton has been improving wonderfully! (We had some behavior issues in the beginning) Olivia's teachers just lover her and her knowledge! I still can't believe that they are all in school and under one roof.
Until next time....
All three children are playing soccer and LOVING it!
Olivia likes to play goalie because she can sing and dance until the ball comes to her. I don't think she has been scored on yet. Peyton is a one man wrecking team on the field. He is quicker than most of the other kids and has great ball control. We had an incident on Saturday about other parents bad mouthing him (because their child's team was losing); that’s for another post soon. Autumn has been playing defense this whole season. She has been playing the same position I normally played back in high school and college; a fullback. Autumn has done a wonderful job there; she is getting really good with that left foot and being very aggressive.
I have started a new venture in selling Thirty-One Gifts. It is purses, bags, accessories that can be monogrammed. It has been going really well till recently, this month has been slow. Check out my website, mythirtyone.com/tiffanyrichter or visit my private group on facebook.com, Awesome Gifts with Tiffany. It's more than just selling purses and bags.
The kids have been doing great in school. Autumn has made Honor Roll again!! Peyton has been improving wonderfully! (We had some behavior issues in the beginning) Olivia's teachers just lover her and her knowledge! I still can't believe that they are all in school and under one roof.
Until next time....
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Summer Time!
It has been a little crazy the past week going into crazy week #2, at least for me.
All of the kids stayed with grandma and papa last week from Tuesday until Friday morning. I am sure that nanny is glad the house is nice and quiet this week. They went bowling, to the movies, and we all went to the laser show on Thursday night, in which Olivia was home sick and decided to come home with Chris and I.
Chris and I had a quiet dinner on Tuesday night. Very odd to be able to carry on a conversation without being interrupted to tell a better story or just having a plain quiet sit down dinner.
We all thoroughly enjoyed the new 3D Laser Show at Stone Mountain. Peyton slept through about half of it and Olivia just couldn't stop dancing. We are going to definitely have to get her into some dance lessons.
This week Chris is graduating! He has practice Thursday night and graduation is Friday. The kids are spending the day with grandma again tomorrow and spending the night.
Sunday, Brew, our dog was not feeling very well. I will not go into detail but making sure that he was okay and taking care of him and limiting his diet added to our activities.
This may not seem like a lot but add into that 2 practices during the week for Autumn for soccer and an early game on Saturdays. And to top it off my second job at Publix- 4 nights a week. That makes a crazy week for me! All the while trying to keep harmony in the house and cleaning and laundry caught up (which doesn't happen).
Now it is almost time to start getting ready for school to be back. All three will be in school, Ugh!
Thank you for tuning into this Richter/Hendrickson update!
All of the kids stayed with grandma and papa last week from Tuesday until Friday morning. I am sure that nanny is glad the house is nice and quiet this week. They went bowling, to the movies, and we all went to the laser show on Thursday night, in which Olivia was home sick and decided to come home with Chris and I.
Chris and I had a quiet dinner on Tuesday night. Very odd to be able to carry on a conversation without being interrupted to tell a better story or just having a plain quiet sit down dinner.
We all thoroughly enjoyed the new 3D Laser Show at Stone Mountain. Peyton slept through about half of it and Olivia just couldn't stop dancing. We are going to definitely have to get her into some dance lessons.
This week Chris is graduating! He has practice Thursday night and graduation is Friday. The kids are spending the day with grandma again tomorrow and spending the night.
Sunday, Brew, our dog was not feeling very well. I will not go into detail but making sure that he was okay and taking care of him and limiting his diet added to our activities.
This may not seem like a lot but add into that 2 practices during the week for Autumn for soccer and an early game on Saturdays. And to top it off my second job at Publix- 4 nights a week. That makes a crazy week for me! All the while trying to keep harmony in the house and cleaning and laundry caught up (which doesn't happen).
Now it is almost time to start getting ready for school to be back. All three will be in school, Ugh!
Thank you for tuning into this Richter/Hendrickson update!
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Back to Square One
The good news turned into BAD news this morning. Chris' job did not pan out. We, as a family, were all excited that Daddy had a job. We were finally going to get out of this stage of *searching* for a job.
Chris had already been on an 'interview' for this company last month where he worked for part of the day on a car; so that they (the company) could see his work and how his skills were. He did not receive a phone call back from that interview until Thursday; saying that there would be a 2nd shift and that his pay would be xxx amount of dollars. Woohoo, Chris and I thought! It would almost double our income!
His 1st night was last night; he worked with guys that had 10-25 years experience and Chris really enjoyed working. They met and surpassed their quota of cars to get finished. But this morning he received a call stating that he did not need to come in today. WHAT?!! No real reason given. Chris believes that it just another way to get free work out of him and all the other guys that worked last night. So, we are back to square one. This is definitely not the company that he wants to work for. God has a plan in everything; I just wish I can see the blueprints for this one.
Chris had already been on an 'interview' for this company last month where he worked for part of the day on a car; so that they (the company) could see his work and how his skills were. He did not receive a phone call back from that interview until Thursday; saying that there would be a 2nd shift and that his pay would be xxx amount of dollars. Woohoo, Chris and I thought! It would almost double our income!
His 1st night was last night; he worked with guys that had 10-25 years experience and Chris really enjoyed working. They met and surpassed their quota of cars to get finished. But this morning he received a call stating that he did not need to come in today. WHAT?!! No real reason given. Chris believes that it just another way to get free work out of him and all the other guys that worked last night. So, we are back to square one. This is definitely not the company that he wants to work for. God has a plan in everything; I just wish I can see the blueprints for this one.
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